A while ago I read this article about fake penis pills being sold online and I thought to myself that men are much bigger size queens than they think women are if the existence of pills like this is anything to go by. Hell, throw in penis pumps and implants and we've got a whole basket of penis-oriented male neurosis. There's waaaay more than just those things to go by.
For example, racial stereotypes. According to whispers and "common knowledge", people with one skin color have big penises and people with another shade have small ones. This is not based in any science. It turns out that there is a wide variation in penis size among any population. Local populations anywhere in the world might have a bigger or smaller average, but race doesn't come into it at all. More to the point, it doesn't matter anyway, or even more to the point, it only matters to the individual men themselves. There's more to the racist side of it and what it's trying to imply about groups of people based on skin color, but in practical terms it's pure bullshit. None of it is true and to prove it scientists have actually gone to the trouble of measuring (they had to, because if they didn't then everyone would measure from the bottom and give themselves a couple of extra centimeters.)
That's because the men who worry about these things have a mindset problem. They think that the penis is the only thing they've got to please a partner. They obsess over it not being big enough or reliable enough to do the job all by itself. They get so focused on penis size that they develop performance anxiety and insecurity about it and forget all about finding any other way to accomplish what they say is their main objective: pleasing a partner. Then when their partner is left disappointed they believe it's all because their dick isn't big enough and not because they worry about it to the exclusion of their partner. Their partner might as well not be there for all that they pay any attention to what's going on with them. It kind of takes all of the fun out of sex.
There are men out there with micropenises who get second dates. It's because they were presented with a situation they couldn't change. No amount of pills or surgery or pumps was going to come anywhere near changing the situation so they had to accept it and figure out a way around it. Like figuring out how to please a partner without relying exclusively on their dick. They use their hands, their mouths, toys, and they focus on their partner. They're more oriented toward the objective than the body part. It leads to success. It makes you wonder if men with size anxiety would sort out the psychological block they have by pretending they don't have a penis a couple of times and finding other ways to please their partner. I suspect they'd get over themselves and everyone including their partner would end up having a better time.
Sometimes it seems like none of it is for the benefit of a partner though. It's more of a prestige thing, of being able to compare themselves to other men. It's mostly done among men with average penis size because men who have nothing to prove don't bother. They have their own problems anyway, just different ones. It strikes me that it's a lot like the stories fishermen tell about the huge fish they caught to impress their social circle. Penis measuring is a lot like that and so are the stories men tell among themselves about sexual experiences. There's a lot of exaggeration going on for the benefit of the audience, and it's all about insecurity. I think that the people doing it don't realize that a secure person wouldn't feel the need to impress anyone. They'd be too busy enjoying their sex life or a happy relationship to need to do that. Because boasting is like a flashing neon sign for insecurity. A person secure with his size and sex life doesn't need outside validation from his peers. Anyway, it turns out that women, at any rate, prefer an average-sized penis.
The moral of all of this might just come down to: Don't trust anyone playing on your insecurities who is trying to sell you something. There are whole industries that both plant insecurities and then feed them to the tune of many billions of dollars a year. Penis size, weight loss, cosmetic surgery, hair loss, graying hair, etc. A lot of people fall for the insecurity trap because they don't realize how they're being preyed upon. Being insecure is a really good way to get played by unscrupulous people. Better to deal with the insecurity instead. Besides, sometimes the products they sell can do permanent damage, as in the case of men who have gone blind or had their vision impaired by Viagra and its internet knockoffs. We've almost hunted the rhinoceros and the tiger to extinction over this shit.
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